I teach about 100 kids a day. It is incredible how much damage we are doing to children without our nonsense rules and regulations. The general stress level, sustained for this long, is hugely damaging. Especially for the poor bastards who have parents who buy in to the nonsense. A couple weeks ago I had a kid break down because his grandmother died and his mom wouldn't let him go to the funeral. He hadn't seen her since Christmas 2019.
If we don't live in a free state, it really sucks for us adults. We are doing real and lasting damage to our children's mental state with draconian and nonsense rules. Most kids around here plainly see the hypocrisy and blatant lies and know they are suffering harm for no reason.
All churches are full of deeply flawed people. You won't find one that isn't.
I became a Christian in my early twenties and began looking for a church, which was difficult because there were so many churches around me (Bible-belt) and my immaturity in the faith meant I was quite uncertain how to proceed. I settled on an ARP church in my area and could not have been luckier in my choice. Maybe try a NAPARC church in your area.
My advice:
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Find a church that unapologetically teaches the Faith using the Bible. Even if you have some points of disagreement, it is refreshing and comforting to be with those who share the same rule of faith and life as you and with whom you have a common reference. Look up Erik Thoennes for levels of doctrine.
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Any worship service should make you feel the weight of you sin, and the weightlessness of its forgiveness.
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The pastor shouldn't be richer than most of the families.
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The church has to be small enough that everybody knows everybody. If thousands of people go to a church, then it isn't a church.
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When people disagree, it is the cultural norm to do so respectfully and lovingly. This, more than anything else, shows the character of the church.
There is so much more, but I think that will do. I know my church has been necessary for the growth of my family and for my own life. I hope you find one that can do the same for you.
My tiny school (25ish teachers k-12) offered us the Moderna vaccine. Three women fell out twitching on the floor and had to go to the hospital. Thankfully, none of them died and they seem to be fine, now.
It blew my mind watching people walk in to get a shot after what they knew just happened to their coworkers. They just went right on in. Crazy.
I'll say the school probably failed, too. There are all kinds of things we are supposed to do when kids are failing. The paperwork is tremendous. If I have a failing student I am required to have student conferences, parent conferences, and work out a plan with the student so they can stop failing.
It is entirely possible the school tried all this and simply couldn't contact the mother. In that case, I'd say the school isn't at fault. I think it is more likely that the teachers saw a kid who wasn't gonna pass due to chronic absence and total lack of motivation and decided he wasn't worth their time. The admin probably doesn't really enforce the policies so the teachers don't follow them.
The big advantage that private schools have is that they don't have to accept everyone. The teachers are usually about the same. The administration are about the same. Even the policies are about the same. The difference is that private schools don't have to admit "low performing" students. For my area, the top and middle performing students in public school outperform the same demographic from private schools, even though the private schools have a much higher average.
The teachers know that. They also know kids uncritically accept anything from a teacher. Especially little kids.
If the vast majority of my students arrive in my classes thinking their blood is blue, then we know kids believe elementary teachers.
Most of the Gen Z that I have taught are pretty based if we define based to mean opposition to the woke nonsense. They still aren't attentive to what is going on in our country and most of them really think they don't care.
I'm definitely do not see myself as a hero.
When I first started teaching, I foolishly accepted the first place that offered me a job and was simply happy to have gotten an offer. I didn't realize that a lot of principles have their heads up their asses and don't hire teachers until late August/September around here so I took a position at a truly horrible place. I worked there for only two years.
One of the weird things I learned is that a lot of gang kids really loved going to school. Two free meals, hanging with their friends, and knowing they won't get in any real trouble for real crimes was a nice thing for them. In my two years at this school I was involved in breaking up at least one real fight a week. Turns out that school districts don't respect gang territory lines and turf wars continue into school.
I stopped counting how many of my students got arrested while I worked there, but I do remember that 7 got busted for rape and 3 for murder in those two years. Just last week a buddy of mine that also worked there for those two years showed me the newspaper arrest report of another murder arrest. It isn't like these kids stop being rapists and murderers and drug dealers when they walk into the school hallway. It also isn't like they give a shit that you are an "adult" (which they don't see most teachers as) or a teacher. Schools like that are really fucking dangerous.
They are throwing buckets of money at schools right now. Our school got enough to upgrade our entire internet infrastructure, buy every adult a pretty nice laptop, every kid a chromebook, every family a hotspot thingy (rural), every room a swivl camera/license/tablet, and some weird face-scan thermometer machines that can supposedly tell if we are sick.
All so about 5% of our students can be "virtual" and do jack shit of what they are supposed to.
Number 5 will do it for most families. Drop a mattress on the floor and everybody get close at night. If you can block off windows and create a small area, then it really warms up.
Young kids will love exercise disguised as a game. Stay upbeat. Stay busy. If you are in real danger of dying, then get to a shelter. Or find a neighbor who likes to camp.
North LA pede here. So far we have been warned of rolling blackouts, but haven't seen them in my neighborhood.
Of course, the ice storm tomorrow will probably damage enough lines that it won't be an issue for a few days.
That poor little girl.