It's her friends. Women are generally more concerned with social acceptance, unless, hilariously, it means they won't get a man. Husband hunting turns leftie women right. But she has you, and she's terrified of her friends calling her names.
This is why I dropped all my bat-spit crazy girlfriends in the dust to whine about the sand the orange man blew up their skirts. Reach out, invite a based guy and his wife over and get her in good circles. Oh, and show her all the memes. My favorite thing to do is beat my husband to a meme and send it to him before he sees it.
I stay home with all of our children (God-willing we have many more), homeschool, and homestead. The first 4-5 years of marriage we made peanuts. Less than 50k, maybe 40? I was still home raising the babies, we had three before he was able to get back into his field and make a much better paycheck. It's more possible than you think, don't let the Globalist make you believe the lie. It's not as easy for us as it was for our paren't and grandparents, but nothing worthwhile is ever easy.
My good friend works in a children's hospital. A lot of times they tell the parents to give their kids permission to die. These kids hang on and fight so their parents won't be sad. She said almost 100% of the time when they tell their child how much they are loved and that it's ok to go, they are gone within the day. It's heartbreaking. I couldn't do what she does.
I live 10 min from these glorious people.