I think that just dumping kids in with kids their own age with teachers who aren't focused on the quality of their social interactions can definitely become abusive. I bring my kids around other kids their age that have shown themselves to be kind and have good social skills. Why would I want them around bullies and brats?
Keep in mind that the socialization that kids get from public school isn't all positive. The bullying etc is obvious, but children often develop negative social coping strategies to deal with the social stressors: depression, withdrawal, agression, etc. When you homeschool you can coach them through difficult social situations and actually make high quality social skills a focus of your learning.
When you homeschool you can put your kid in a million extracurricular sports and activities because they're not so burnt out from school. Then you get them together with friends for unstructured play time which is better anyways because they're supposed to be playing and being social and not "supposed to be working" and not talking to each other like in a class.
No doubt there are introverted homeschooling families that can be a bit strange. I'm not sure that kids like that do any better in public school though, because they implement damaging social coping mechanisms and tend to get bullied badly.
The majority of homeschoolers I interact with are more socially capable than other kids. They are used to being in the actual real community with typical adults. They speak up for themselves, can navigate playing with a mix of ages and have better foundational emotional attachments so their overall levels of anxiety, depression etc. are far lower.
Homeschooling communities often have day-long workshops or there are lots of activities you can have your kid be a part of. It would still be difficult to structure with a job, but it isn't like you have to be with the kids 24/7. The more people choose to homeschool, which is already going up dramatically, the more these things will be available.
Smart decision. There are many programs and curricula that are specifically designed for homeschooling. Plus, you can structure your day in any way that works best for your family. True homeschooling is far easier and more efficient than remote learning, which tries to replicate the classroom at home, and doesn't work very well.
I agree with you up until your last point. If you want quality then you need to pay for it. Rank and pay based on merit. I don't foresee that happening in the public school system any time though...
So, give us our money back so we can homeschool.
We don't need those indoctrination camps. Let's put that money to better use.