Thank you, God Bless

this

Tell that to 10 years ago me.... fuck!

However, my daughter is my everything, she is the best thing to ever happen to my world. so I regret nothing.

Thanks

She hasn't withheld YET nor has she shown her hand.

The plan you laid out is exactly what I will do. Calling Child Services and politely explaining this to them is the best first step. don't think they would be too fond of them showing up on Christmas eve at her packed house with TOO many people.

That's the plan - sending her something on Monday saying "Drop her off at my house - and then doing what I was normally going to do with the Kid anyway."

lmao basically.

She does not want to unleash THIS kraken... I assure you I have the financial means to absolutely destroy her in court.

We have avoided courts for 4 years - everything has been mututal. Don't think the courts will be too fond of her living situation vs mine (her packed in a small house with too many people and me having my own place with 2 Bedrooms for my daughter - one is a playroom).

she has not openly said she is withholding my daughter on Christmas, it is just a fear of mine.

I may tell her "Drop her off at my house on scheduled date" and then just go to my parent's house anyway.

Only reason I told her about this was to give her an FYI and let her know that she could drop her off at my parent's house as that's where I will be ... because it saves her 1.5 hours round trip of driving.

My dumbass was trying to be nice.

yup - meanwhile i work from home - Finance with the military and I only go in once or twice a week to print / gather more work (in evenings when noone is there). if I am putting her at risk by gathering with my family then i will definitely hire a lawyer to turn this back on her.

lmao - this was a funny one. thanks for the visual.

I was almost tempted to reply to her with "IF BLM Protests in Ottawa with our PM showing up wish his "Resist" socks are fine, then a gathering at my parent's house is also fine ..." alas i did not.

Lessons learned

1. Fake Red Hair
2. She Doesn't own a horse but she frequently went out "riding" during our marriage.
3. Nurse
4. Owns a Jeep.

Thanks Fren , it is BS

I know , my bad ... lesson learned i guess - we will see how christmas goes.

I will say in Canada that the Family Courts have begun to start the curve towards equality - I have seen a few of my male friends win custody battles and their Ex's aren't Drug addicts.

Shes Crazy but i don't think shes swatted crazy ... time will tell

we have been able to agree to things WITHOUT courts or lawyers for 4 years so for her to somehow take a 180 and get malicious, from my legal experience working for family lawyers before and my personal opinion is that even if the cops don't enforce this and i counter sue, I will release MY version of the Kraken on her - i have the money to support a big custody battle... she does not.

that's very ... uplifting.

Canada is a bit more Cucked - but i believe our courts have rules the same thing.

I will do my best.

I've never forgotten that friend. She's the reason I still exist. Everything I do is for her.

I mean I wasn't aggressive. I simply told her through texts that "I disagree with your stance in what is in the best interest of our daughters health. Her mental health is important too, she hasn't seen her cousins in 6 months. ..." I also noted that "the guidelines you're telling me I HAVE to follow are not laws they're recommendations".

So I don't know what much she can do other than be mad at her phone.

I don't think she's borderline. She's just a vindictive bitch.

Thanks fren. I needed that.

Don't be sorry. Hindsight is 2020 and I did make a huge mistake in telling her my plans.

My spouse (my GF not my ex) is very understanding and we spoke about this in detail last night. She made a great point. None of what I plan to do with my kid is illegal. It just slightly goes against public health recommendations. I didn't need to tell her.

Just like she doesn't tell me when she Jay walks or speeds or parks illegally with my child. None of them are criminal acts. So there's no issue.

She also never tells me her plans so I don't know what I was thinking.