Merry Christmas!! Living up to your name, u/Feelsgoodman
Hi, this is nice of you to say. I'm just going to use this post to vent some stuff and do an overshare. It's not some sad/exciting story -- pretty boring, tbh, and I feel a bit stupid even writing it after reading what OP's been through -- but thanks for asking anyway.
I'm an English teacher in Korea, which is an easy gig that's great as a bit of a stall when you're younger while you're trying to figure out what to do with your life. But once you're in your 30s, you frankly start to feel a little pathetic about your lack of a defined career/future, and perhaps a little more so when you find yourself basically alone without friends or family on Christmas.
I'm an attractive, funny, and likeable guy who used to be the life of the party, so I wouldn't normally be so alone. But once I started saying some pro-Trump things on Facebook, pretty much all my friends ditched me, either in protest or from being shamed by others into doing it. But that's okay, because it's partly Trump and this community that is getting me to turn my life around.
I was studying I.T. at uni, but feeling depressed and nihilistic, and made the dumbest mistake of my life: switching to English literature. I know, I know, fucking retarded decision. I was young and dumb. (I understand in hindsight how liberals are trying to destroy youth by teaching them that hard work and capitalism are bad and you should waste your life not adding to society.) Anyway, I came out of that without any good skills, and still didn't know anything about how the world works or what to do with my life, so I came to Korea and taught English. Thankfully, I loved it, and still do. It's awesome being able to work with kids everyday and see how you help them grow. But as time wears on, the dread of wasted potential bears down on you, and you want to see yourself grow.
So I started listening to conservative, non-nihilistic viewpoints, and felt this immense depression that I had suffered since childhood evaporate as I saw that life is about building. Build something for others, build a family for yourself, build a better world to give to that family. It's so simple that I resent that dark forces are teaching us otherwise. I decided to re-learn programming, and am now working in my spare time on an app that I genuinely think will be hugely popular. I don't spend my spare time on wasteful partying that provides a fun experience for a night but doesn't build my character. I don't pursue random meaningless sex with hot crazies, but pursue loving relationships that can go somewhere with someone with a good heart. Free time is for working out and coding, and that's it. I really hope that my app, when it's finished, is the success I think it will be. Maybe it will be a colossal failure. But even in that event, I will be proud of myself for having done it, and won't stop trying.
All the same, it's a scary time for me, and it does suck to be alone, even if largely by choice. So it's really nice to have some random pede from across the world reach out and say they want to listen, when I don't quite know how to express my fears to people who know me better.
Sorry this was so long! I just started typing then couldn't stop. Like I said, not the most exciting stuff.
A bit late, but thank you and hope your Christmas was merry also!