Yeah he told her "I will destroy you". Sounds like dude spent a little too much time watching Game Of Thrones and House Of Cards and mistaking those for real life.
But hey, at least he's not one of those dumb out of touch Boomers.
P.S: I thought you had been kidding about the road trip thing. I went back and read it. This road trip thing, the day trip thing... this is ridiculous! She doesn't even know you!
She doesn't even know you for more than a few days and she wants to travel with you alone for 2-3 days. This is insane.
Hmm nothing that you said about your own words sounds bad at all. Bringing up an R-rated subject like hookers on a first date could be bad BUT she definitely brought up the subject! She started it. And quite frankly, telling a new guy that she got mistaken for a hooker is not a good idea for a first date.
The dancing girl comment does not sound cringe-inducing at all! I think it's way more cringe-worthy that a girl mocks another woman's appearance and calls her a "butterface". And then she made it way worse by saying she was joking to avoid coming off as mean. That just seems weird. If she's a blunt type of person who says mean things about people sometimes, she should own it. Why hide behind the "i was joking" excuse? Why cop out?
Asking you if you would trade places with the playboy/pornstar guy is hella weird for a first date! It's too much. I can understand if you two had been drinking and she was trying to be 'playful' or something. But it just ... it's too much for a first date when you're both fairly sober to bring up sexual debauchery and then ask someone if they're into that.
Don't apologize for the long comment. That's cool.
Honestly, uhh, I'm not hearing much to indicate that this lady is ... an easygoing, nice, laid back but honest person. She actually sounds rather judgmental and also ... the type of person who does NOT put others at ease!
There's an interesting pattern here where she actually seems like she might be put off by guys NOT being degenerates. It's weird that she said she was mistaken for a prostitute and that she asked you if you would be interested in a lot of sexual debauchery.
It's also weird that you feel like you pushed her away by NOT wanting prostitutes or sexual debauchery or girls shaking their asses on instagram.
Also interesting that the moment you said that the Instagram girl had a decent body, your chick chimed in with a solid neg on that girl and called her a "butterface".
I'm not reading anything genuinely nice about this girl.
My previous theory stands. Seems like you're not seeing this girl's flaws at all.
She doesn't sound like she put you at ease at all! Sounds more like you felt like you were on trial the whole time and she kept needling you to discuss sexual topics and kept pushing you in that direction and ignoring your discomfort.
Remember, SHE wanted to take a road trip one on one with you. Again, this is too much for someone she does not know.
I don't think this girl is as great as you think she is. I'm not saying she's evil and bad or anything. But she's nowhere near as awesome as you've made her out to be.
If anything, it sounds like she's a lot more promiscuous and sexually driven and kinda bitchy than she's openly letting on. To tell a guy she doesn't know well that she was mistaken for a prostitute, ehhhh. Just seems weird. And asking that same guy to take a road trip with her when she's known him for 2-3 days - pretty hecking weird.
You REALLY need to take many steps back and evaluate this whole thing.
You're welcome. You need to ask your lady wtf happened :/ How do you know it can all be chalked down to something as vague as not being good with women? After all at the party you were good enough for her! Come on. Just a couple days ago, she liked you enough to ask you to take a road trip with her and now suddenly she thinks you're awkward and not confident?
Naaahh. Doesn't seem like that at all. It doesn't work that way. Suddenly she thinks you're ugly in just 2 days?? Nooope!
You gotta figure out what you were talking about in the 5 minutes before she announced that she wanted to leave. You really gotta think about that.
Seriously, also consider asking her what happened.
It sounds like you really want this to be about your looks and personality as opposed to some gaffe or faux pas you may have made with your words or actions.
But sorry man. This probably has very little to do with your looks and general personality. You may want it to be about that but if it was, she wouldn't have responded enthusiastically at first when she already knew what you looked like and had interacted with her.
What happened right before she told you she had to go?
Your "pro boxers" never turned the other cheek in the ring, did they? Why didn't you ever ask them that? Why do you let them leave that part conveniently out?
When it came time to put food on the table for themselves and their families and pay rent/mortgage etc., how come your "pro boxers" never followed through on their pious Biblical words and they never once turned the other cheek in the ring?
How come when it was time in the ring to put their money where their mouth is, they never once turned the other cheek?
Everybody is capable of liking the Bible AND wanting to avoid a civil assault and battery lawsuit. There is no dearth of extremely religious people who also do violent work for a living.
Pro boxer has to say that to avoid civil liability from beating up some guy at a bar fight.
This is worlds apart from, and has nothing to do with, non-violent wars where one side is targeted for complete eradication, and that side merely wants to exist.
I don't think this opportunity is anywhere nearly as golden as you think. There's NOTHING so far that you have stated about this woman that indicates anything superior about this woman besides her appearance - which again can be highly subjective.
What's ironic is that all the idiot, stupid men here who are claiming to support you are actually reinforcing your false belief that you did something wrong and that you're inherently inferior to her because of your appearance or your behavior.
Even as they claim to be 'alphas', their fundamental premise is that this woman is a prize and that you're not.
What actually makes her such a prize beyond her appearance and her initial desperation and over-eagerness to 'hang out' with you?
Have you EVER asked yourself that?
Why not?
I mean, Jesus Christ guy ... Do you GENUINELY believe SHE did NOTHING WRONG?
Dude don't listen to that guy. This is awful. Jesus Christ. I never thought I'd say this but sometimes women are soooo much nicer. Fuck, dude. Just stop with this 'I'm so ugly compared to her' nonsense. Jesus Christ. Just disregard that shit. It's BAD for you.
But how do you know you blew it??
Look...I'll tell you this. IF you did actually really genuinely do something that was 'bad', well, if she tells you what went wrong, you can apologize for it. You can let her know that you acknowledge making a mistake. You could easily get a second chance.
How do you know that your mistake was that you got too excited?? Did you grab her? Touch her? Did you get manic and talk a lot and loudly and not stop talking? Like, what's the evidence that that was the mistake you made?
And finally, just cuz someone looks great, that does NOT make them desirable for a long term relationship. There's not even any guarantee that a hot person is actually that good even in the sack.
You're really viewing yourself as an undesirable person. You gotta get away from your asshole friends and family, man. This is not good for you. It's great to have a hot gf/bf but you gotta be around people who don't treat you like you're some gross uggo.
Dafuq, who told you that was "cringe"? Nothing cringe-worthy about that at all. Man, who got in your head? This is sad. You do something perfectly normal and nice, and you've been conditioned to feel like you fucked up.
Secondly, so what if she didn't consider it a date and realized that you did? What's so creepy about that? Misunderstandings happen. It's really not a big deal. She can just feel flattered and laugh it off. And she can certainly woman up and clarify that she just wanted to hang out as friends - if that's the case. You don't need to make excuses for her.
You really need to develop the confidence and assertiveness to be direct and ask for clarification when a woman leaves you feeling bewildered.
You should not be in the position of speculating and wondering, and you should ask the source of all the confusion directly to clear things up.
You really need to feel more comfortable being direct and honest with a woman when she leaves you feeling confused.
Look buddy, you don't get to switch back and forth between stooping irrationally to personal insults and then back to some evidence-based form of argument.
Pick a lane and stick to it. Either ad hominem in which case you'll get fucking shredded for being an asshole for no reason or provocation. Or logical argument. But you picked ad hominem. Bad call, chief.
NOPE! He should NOT submit to playing this game. He needs to ask for clarification. He has the right to do so and she's obligated to tell him. Now, obviously, she could very well choose not to. But let him go ahead and put her in that position.
Why are you wanting him to submit to her tactics? Let HIM make the call. Not her.
I don't give a shit about your feelings lmao. Nobody does. Feelings are not facts. If you're too insecure to ask for any clarification and you choose to deal with your insecurity by lashing out with stupid insults, you're never going to get anywhere.
If you want to be miserable and stagnate, that's your call.
So .. lemme ask you this. Had/has she ever seen a pic of you before this date? Anything for her to get an indication of your appearance before you both went out tonight? You're saying she and you met at a party, right? So she knew what you looked like?
And she asked you to go on this hypothetical road trip AFTER she saw you, right?
Also, did she mention any others for this road trip, or was it like "you and me should do this thing"?
Also ... what exactly happened at the end when you say "she left"? What happened that was so bad? What about her "leaving" made you think it's all over and she's lost interest?
Who asked whom out? Was this a dinner invitation? Was this a night thing?
Why were you expecting to spend multiple hours with her?
The best part is though that here, there actually IS a victim if this 'smart med tech' becomes popular. And that victim could easily be any of them. But they're too stupid to even care.
It's weird. These dumbasses will get conniptions over some guy's offensive tweets but the prospect of some doctor having the capacity to enforce compliance with their medication protocol does not worry them in the least.