Yeah I've studied some things, but I haven't mastered it in practice, so talking about it and thinking it through helps me too.
Something I say might end up being wrong. But I can 100% be sure this is correct: The goal is to increase understanding, so anything you do that does that is a win and was right.
Degree of understanding with someone means:
- How good you feel in their presence
- How much you agree with them on things
- How well you can further communicate with them
So if someone disagrees with you or is mad at you, it will be hard to talk to them. If you don't listen to someone and let them know you understand (even if you don't agree with it) then you break communication and all 3 will get worse which means less understanding.
So based on that you can figure out how to handle a conversation to increase agreement, affinity and overall understanding.
So after you've listened and let her and let her know that you understood how what she said could possibly be true (even if you don't agree that it is true), you can then start to say what you think about it (in a friendly manner). Then when she responds, make sure that you know that she understood how what you said could possibly be true (even if she doesn't agree that it is true).
If either of you get upset then you know that something went wrong with the conversation that lowered understanding and you can still go back and address what it was.
Again, the main point to focus on is increased understanding, that you end a conversation without either of you being annoyed with the other, or ideally that you gained some agreement and are happier about it than when you started. That should slowly red pill her and you will probably understand where she's coming from better as well.
Also never pretend to agree on something that you don't actually agree with, but always make sure you understand what they mean and that they know that you understand.
I guess you got to acknowledge and handle her concerns individually. Like it sounds like she's worried about the fact that black people are more vulnerable to COVID which is actually true, but the reason is because they are more likely be vitamin D deficient because of the color of their skin. Show the scientific data, leftists like science.
The thing is that the whole idea about wanting free stuff is born out of financial stress. You got gently make them see the real reasons why they're getting fucked economically, and I don't mean trying to convince them that their gender studies degree is worthless.
That's why I say don't attack their ideology. To you it's just rational discussion, but to them it's seen as an attack. Just point their attention to the real bullshit from a position of being in some kind of agreement.
FCC chairman Ajit Pai is based. He pissed off big tech and their mob of leftists by making this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFhT6H6pRWg Look at the like/dislike ratio.
Must be a Chinese bot.